Why it is never OK to say "You wished your Autistic child goes before you".

I get that as parents of an Autistic people we are terrified about their future.

But is it ever OK to say you hope they die before you?

I watched the Documentary with Katie and Harvey and I felt her pain for the future. We all have. I think she is a great mom and doing the best she can. I know Harvey has a lot of other care needs too. I just don't agree with what she said. She also said it in front of an Autistic person.

Just imagine for a second that an Autistic teenager with depression watches this show. Already feeling like they don't fit in and they are struggling, hears that Katie hopes Harvey goes before her. This teenager could then think that, maybe this is how her parents think about her too.

Can you imagine the devastation this teenager must feel?

I get moms are scared of the future, so am I but I'd never wish my daughter died before me. I will spend all my life fighting for my daughters rights and giving her the tools to live her best life.

I never want my daughter to think that I want her to die before me!!

We are advocates for our children and we want to make the world a better place for them. One day our kids will be teenagers and adults reading and hearing these things from moms.

For the first time ever we can learn so much from Autistic people because of Social Media. Shouldn't we be interested in how they feel about things? In less than ten years my daughter will be one of those teenage advocates and I'd hate to think Mom's of Autistic children wouldn't listen to her advice when she is Actually Autistic.

We need to choose our words wisely, as they can hurt others.